Separation and divorce bring special difficulties for men, women and children. It's a tough time for everyone. You can go down the lawyer/court track if you like, but that can waste thousands of dollars and create bitterness and hostility - a bad result for all concerned. We can show you a better way, a way to avoid lengthy and expensive litigation, a way to come to an agreement with your ex-partner on parenting, property and child support. We can assist you through this stressful time by the use of proven methods that will work quickly for you, produce a good result and not cost the earth.Because we are dealing here with human relations, you will do best if you do not reach immediately for lawyers and the courts, but instead seek out those who are trained to deal with human emotions, sensitivities, and the practical day-to-day decisions that have to be made after separation.
We know that children survive and thrive after divorce if they are not uprooted from their community, if they can maintain good relationships with both parents and with others who are important to them. It is critical that parents learn not to confuse their own needs with those of their children. Consider your children’s future too.
The beauty of mediation is that the solution to disputes remains with the separated couple. They are the experts and know their situations better than anyone else. In mediation the final decision remains with the individuals and is not handed over to a judge, magistrate or lawyer. The whole process is completely voluntary. Professional mediators remain totally independent and your confidentiality is guaranteed.
Many people go straight to lawyers at the time of separation. They can end up in a legal battle which often costs $20,000 - $100,000 and can take a year or so to resolve. The resulting Court Orders are often not satisfactory to the parties. Mediation is a far better alternative. Give it very serious consideration.
All the experts and studies on life after separation agree that mothers, fathers and children can survive divorce providing that they make some sensible decisions and avoid conflict, especially involving the children. Ongoing conflict - in or out of court - has dreadful effects on children. Even if parents do not like one another, there are ways to settle disputes, sort out living and child support arrangements, and agree on a parenting plan that will enable father, mother and children to live in peace. We know that children survive and thrive after divorce if they are not uprooted from their community, if they can maintain good relationships with both parents and with others who are important to them. It is critical that parents learn not to confuse their own needs with those of their children.
We suggest that you talk to Michael Green Mediation.
