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Doing what I think is right
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She has admitted harming our son
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Posted 30 June, 2009, 04:55 PM
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My partner and I split up a bit less than a month ago I moved out on the 6th of June.
Initially we started with an informal joint careagreement with our son where we would each have him three days a week and every second Saturday then on the 16th of June my partner was admitted to a mental health unit by her psychiatrist for treatment of bi-polar disorder and our son has been in my care full time since, which is great.
Then last week I got a call from child protection services who had been made aware that my ex had admitted to hurting our son on several different occassions as well as not being able to cope with raising a child. They also advised that I should not leave our son alone with her.
This has totally changed my opinion on what is the best for the immediate future of my son, which I have decided it is best that he stay with me full time until my ex can get treatment of her bi-polar condition.
I need advice on what would be the best way to move forward with this delicate situation where I do not want to take my son away from his mother but I also worry for the well being of my son if left alone with her. Should I just apply for full custody and secure his future with me?
Can I put some sort of legal agreement in place which states she has to prove that she is mentally fit to be able raise a child before I give her 50/50 access. It is a very hard situation and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Response
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Posted 04 July, 2009, 11:01 AM
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I'm not sure if it applies in this case where you have been advised not to leave you child with the mother but normally you would go through a process with a relationship centre where you mediate care arrangements which are then set in stone in court all going well.
For a start I would contact the relationship centre nearest you and ask their advise. Also get the advice from the child protection people in writing.
During the whole process make it clear you are NOT denying the Mother a relationship with your son and see if you can't try for visits that are supervised by family members. Do you get on well with her parents or other family members and can ask them to have the child for sleepovers with the Mother staying? If the parents are close hopefully they will jump at the chance to have time with their grandson as most grandparents are very anxious during splits as they often lose out on seeing the children.
When you are swimming down a creek and an eel bites your cheek, that's a Moray.
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